Patti Smith shares with clarity about the lifestyle that she has recovered from through the power of faith in God and Jesus Christ. She wasn’t guilty of every sin that was ever imagined, but enough to make a lot of misery for herself and for those in her path.
The stories of each step toward the depths and those steps upward that brought Patti to the place of Glory and Love where she walks today.
Through an opportunity to get treatment for alcoholism, Patti kept following a lighted path until she could reach the forgiveness of God and learn peace and forgiveness of herself, plus develop a desire to live a life honoring her God and Savior, contributing to the lives of her family and others who are seeking the same spiritual place she has found. Patti and her husband serve at their church, take care of elderly family, and she co-leads with Rachel’s Hope Post-Abortion retreats while writing devotionals that speak to those who know she has been in their place.
All is not serious — Patti is a football fan and blogs about her faith and hobby at Gridiron Granny Football Fanatic She keeps us grinning and updated on the football situation at Thirsty Thursday author marketing events hosted on Facebook by Helping Hands Press.
Patti doesn’t hide her past, but she doesn’t write to shock readers. There’s no profanity or salacious tales. Patti takes responsibility for her choices and tells clearly how she has received mercy and forgiveness with healing of body and soul. The mercy and love of God are the foundation of her story for without that she would be just another selfish, willful woman choosing dangerous behaviors.
Gladys Quintal is a survivor. As a paranormal romance author living in Australia, she has used the vampire story genre as a therapy to wage war against her experiences. Gladys came to my attention on Facebook — isn’t the Internet wonderful. Without social media, we would never have ‘met’ and Gladys’ statement that there is Life After Hell wouldn’t have made it to the pages of Cardinal Bluff.
Gladys wakes up every day to a reality she has determined to live and she refuses to be further victimized by circumstances she cannot change. The link goes to the book — I suggest you read, be inspired and support a brave woman.
From 1976-1982, I was the victim of sexual abuse. My abuser (who was a paedophile, rapist and killer of animals) was sentenced to seven years in prison on the 25th February 2013 – a full 30 years after the fact. I flew to New Zealand on the 25th of February 2013 to witness the sentencing of my rapist – a journey toward justice 30 years in the making. His conviction and inclusion on the sex offender registry was a victory like no other.
I want to emphasize the all-important message that you do not have to put up with abuse. Children are so easily manipulated and coerced by adults. They are so easily silenced and paralysed by threats, especially threats of violence against loved ones or beloved pets. They are the perfect victims – naïve, gullible, terrified and defenceless. Therefore, we must protect our children and make sure we are leaving them in the care of people we absolutely trust.
Yet abuse happens all too frequently around the world, and children need to tell someone – anyone – other than the parent or caregiver who is the abuser. A teacher, priest, neighbour, a policeman… no matter the manner in which your abuser has threatened or intimidated you, there is someone out there who will and can help, if you only take that first step and ask. In cases of paedophilia, nine times out of ten the victim knows the abuser, who is often a family member or close friend. Parents need to be more vigilant and watch for the signs of abuse, for paedophiles operate within a sick and clever mentality of their own, brilliantly disguising their actions, shifting blame, and twisting the facts. Simply put, children do not stand a chance against a determined paedophile. I certainly didn’t.
Whenever the bad stuff would happen, I would zone out and try and pretend it was happening to someone else. I was determined not to let him break me – not to let him drive me insane and in the back of my mind I kept telling myself that one day I would be old enough to leave and start a life for myself. I would be in control then and never let anything like this happen ever again. I always believed that I would have a better life than the horror I was living and fought to survive long enough to make it through to that time.
I wrote this book to inform abuse survivors that they are not alone, and that they are worthy, and that they can seek justice. Yes, justice can be dispensed many, many years after the crime has been committed. It may not be for everyone, and I will not lie and say it is an easy road. It requires years of emotional investment and takes toll on you and your loved ones. But it can be done. The closure it has given me to see “him” behind bars is amazing. I feel as if a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I have been shown to be worthy — at last.The sentencing of my rapist was a vindication and also gave me some small sense of consolation. I know that at least for the next few years, other children will be safe from a monstrous paedophile – something that caused me many sleepless nights over the past 30 years. Can you imagine the lingering horror of wondering what “new” child he was abusing at any given time, and not being able to do a damn thing to stop him? I wanted to get him off the streets, away from children, and registered as a sex offender. After many years, I have achieved that.
Also, writing a journal is extremely therapeutic. In fact, this is how the book began. Rather than keep it bottled up inside, push aside your feeling of shame and talk about the abuse. Share your story with anyone who wants to listen, because getting it out there and not hiding it away is the key. It need not be a dark little secret. Tell the world, which is what I am doing here. It gets the burden off your shoulders and may just help someone else in the process. The truth is, the more people who talk about it, the less victims there will be.
Even after everything I went through as a child, I am a happy and well adjusted adult, thank God. I am in love with the man of my dreams, have four beautiful children, and many wonderful friends. I have already reached a lot of the goals that I set for myself – getting my stepfather convicted for rape being at the top of my list. I had always wanted to write books and have done that now too. I enjoy writing and have written a series of Paranormal Romance books in The Dream Series, about a vigilante vampire that kills rapists and child molesters….
I also wrote this book and a short story about my health. I have fought to get my health problems sorted and not just let doctors fob me off like they have tried to do for years. I never want to be a doormat like my mother; I want to take control of my own fate and fight to be in charge of my own life. I now have a very good and happy life, a life where I am in control of my own destiny. The life I always knew was out there waiting for me, if I could just escape the horrors of home.
A life after hell…
Each must make her own way along the path to God. Sometimes there are more turns and curves than for others. God is always patient.
One woman’s journey from the beginning. C.J. Braden tells her experiences as she made her own choices without solid communication with God, but thinking she was doing things right.
An impulsive Bible study group at a dark time in her life opened the doors of her heart to God completely. A spiritual experience that revealed God’s protection and love for her through the years, Along with this new peace, C.J. received a view of how things could have been different had she been walking with Him instead of trying to work it all out under her own control. That view became this book.
Believing that life would fall into place for her and giving in about dreams became the way things went for C.J. and many other young women. Dreams of being an artist and living in the West that were in her heart from childhood were put on hold.
Without making a boring, specific road map and ‘how to’ statement, C.J. Braden writes about her experience and how things could have been different. Readers have personally told her that they can read about her path to God and understand their path more clearly.
A statement of love and joy to bring God’s encouragement and comfort to believers, new and mature as well as searchers who, like the younger C.J., still wonder what they believe.
I am well acquainted with C.J. Braden. I was blessed to be there when ‘the lights came on’ for her spiritually. I recommend a Peace at a Time — that is how life with the Lord works, just taking the days one peace at a time. He keeps sending the peace every morning.
I bought A Peace at a Time for my Kindle and have received treasured autographed copies from the Author. At C.J. Braden’s website you can find an excerpt from the book and blog updates, plus spiritual shares.