MOTHER, CAN YOU HEAR ME? personal experience as a caregiver by Joy Ross Davis.
Joy Ross Davis takes readers into her heart and the heart of her family to make us smile, cry and learn about real people in a caregiving situation as she tells about time spent as a full time caregiver for her mother as the dementia and confusion of Alzheimer’s disease took a terrible toll on a mother who had been a leader in her home.
These bitter-sweet scenarios are not unfamiliar to me. They were first published in local and regional southern papers and a few have been posted in Ms. Davis blog at her website, joyrossdavis.com where I’ve read them.
To have the collection together in one full-of-feeling volume lets the joy, wonder and stress roll over readers. It is impossible to read and not be spiritually touched. If you are a caregiver, if you know someone being ravaged by Alzheimer’s or if you know someone who is the caregiver, you will sense the reality of the stories so gently and lovingly delivered. You will be comforted, inspired to look at situations differently and can only come out the other end changed.
Joy spares readers the rough, day-to-day experiences, although she alludes to them when she tell us how exhaustion can catch up with her and run her over at times. Those day-to-day moments are part of the job, but do not define the human being for whom the trap is closing. The memories that must be fed and nurtured are the light times and the right times because there will come a day when these are all we have. These memories comforted Joy Ross Davis when her mother breathed her last and they will stand others in good stead when that day comes for them.
As an added bonus, the cover designers were absolutely inspired with a design that reflects on Joy’s relationship with her mother, how things fade in our lives and a wonder if and when we will become ‘mother.’
“Mother, Can You Hear Me” is not a long book — you can probably finish in an evening’s reading. Available both in digital and print format, this is one that you shouldn’t pass by.